Birthdays on Facebook

Life is a series of choices, and one dilemma we have all faced, is what to do when we get a notification on Facebook that it’s the birthday of a ‘Friend.’ On the surface it may appear that it’s simple to just post a birthday greeting, but it’s actually very complex. Just like with saying, ‘I do,’ a lot of thought and consideration goes in to the pronouncement of two words…Happy Birthday.

The first decision is whether or not you want to acknowledge the person’s birthday. Facebook makes the excuse of, ‘Oh I forgot,’ almost impossible to use, as it sends constant reminders of whose birthday it is. Yes, it sounds cruel, but let’s be honest, there are ‘Friends,’ who we have been unwilling to exert the effort for to post ‘Happy Birthday.’ Am I right? Maybe it’s because they have sent about a dozen too many game requests or because they didn’t wish us a Happy Birthday. We do keep track, just like with Christmas cards, a sent to and received from list is made.

The next challenge is how much or how little to say, sometimes just ‘Happy Birthday’ doesn’t seem like enough. It’s like saying, “Hi, how are you?” You don’t really care, but it just comes out naturally. A little more in the message adds a personal touch, even if it’s the standard, ‘have a great day,’ or some variation of that. Also, do you give those closest to you, the exact same greeting as those you give the ‘Friends’ that are simply number boosters?

Personally, no matter the substance of the birthday greeting, I’m thankful for every single one I receive. It’s always nice to hear from those I expect to, and especially those who surprise me. The ‘Friends’ that I have little interaction with either on-line or in real life, but chose to acknowledge my birthday is gratifying. I applaud those who has never even had a status ‘liked’ by me, but wished me a ‘Happy Birthday.'

I also enjoy seeing the different types of birthday posts, not only to me, but to everyone. It never fails, there are always people who extends their wishes in a comment on someone else’s post. For example, Aunt Sue posts a ‘Happy Birthday’ to Fred, and then Aunt Ruth adds her birthday wishes in a comment. There’s really nothing wrong with that, it just says to me, “I don’t know how to post on your wall.” It’s not that hard. Then there’s those who are a few days or a week or two late, who seemingly have no idea.

It’s my goal to get my birthday greetings sent before the obligatory ‘thank you for the wishes’ post made by the celebrant. At that point, any wishes thereafter seem to be a little self- serving, especially those in the comments. At least care enough to make your own post and not admit that you somehow missed all the signs that it was their birthday, but want to be acknowledged for recognizing it.

Yes, birthdays were much simpler when the only dilemma used to be whether to get someone a funny or a serious birthday card.

The Unasked Question

Through my life I’ve asked a lot of questions, including ‘Will you marry me?’ and have talked to a lot of people, but there  remains a question I’ve never asked. ‘Do you want fries with that?’ doesn’t count, because it’s on a totally different level. In all seriousness, it’s a question that could forever change a life. Fear hasn’t stopped me from inquiring about, why the third hand on a watch is called the second hand? And other irrelevant questions, yet I’ve shied away from ever asking anyone to church.

I’ve been going to church for as long as I can remember, I even enjoy it, most weeks. Yet, I’ve never felt compelled to invite someone to share in it with me. Politics and religion are two taboo subjects, but I can openly bash Obama to others, but not introduce them to Christ. We, even myself, often say too much, but also not enough. When I eat at a delicious restaurant, read a captivating book, or watch an addicting TV show I spread the word so others can partake. However, when I attend a spiritually uplifting church service, I just go home and take a nap…after going out for lunch. Why? Yes, to never watch ‘Breaking Bad’ is sinful, but to know about Joseph is much more beneficial than learning about Walter White.

Religion is a sensitive topic, I feel like those who don’t go to church have their reasons. Who am I to change them? If they wanted to go, there are plenty of churches around, they don’t need me to ask. Plus, I really don’t want to be viewed as a religious freak who is all about church and stuff. Who wants to be around a person like that? I give no thought to the positive difference the invitation could bring to their life. Maybe they want to go, but just need that extra nudge and comfort of knowing they will at least know somebody there.

The sad truth is, I’m willing to bet (Gambling isn’t always sinful, the Catholics do it), that we know a lot more people who don’t go to church than who do. There’s plenty of people to ask to choose from. The current series at my church has been about how we can reach the unchurched by being the church as the hands and feet of God. Act Godly, by treating others with kindness and generosity in all aspects of life, while at work, at play, at the grocery store or wherever you are. Smiles are contagious and just a few kind words can make a big difference in someone’s heart. We may be the only representation of Christ that some people ever see.

This world is full of hate and suffering, just imagine the differences that could be made if the love of Christ was shed a little brighter. People are more familiar with the 50 Shades of Grey than the Ten Commandments. Kindness can make a huge difference. The shooter in the recent South Carolina tragedy claims that he almost didn’t do it, because everyone in the church was so nice to him. If, and granted it’s a big IF, but IF he hadn’t fired a single shot then nobody would have ever even known what almost happened. Consider this, what if you being kind to someone stops them from doing something hurtful. Smiles and kind words are free, we should all give them out more often. Doesn’t that sound like a world in which you would like to live?

I attend Christian Life Center, Little York Campus, and I extend an invitation for you to come, or to attend a church of your choice. I’m also going to try and write some occasional spiritual posts, as there really is nothing more important to talk about, even with the new season of ‘Orange is the New Black’ now on Netflix.

 

 

Sock it to me! Size Matters. Tube vs. No Shows

Marriage has taught me a lot, as apparently I’d been doing a lot of things wrong prior to taking the plunge. For example, I shouldn’t have based my tips on the amount of cleavage the waitress shows (The Hooters girls always got more than 20%) or only did dishes when the cupboards were bare. However, my worst mistakes were seemingly due to my lack of any fashion sense. I’m left to wonder how I ever dressed myself, as I failed with even the most basic of necessities. I’ll spare you the debriefing on underwear choices and instead focus on socks.

I really never knew how important socks were to an ensemble, as long as no hole was visible, all was good. So I thought. I was able to mask my deficiency of sock knowledge through the colder months, but once it became warm enough to wear shorts then my inadequacies were fully exposed. As if my ghostly white legs weren’t bad enough, my tube socks made it worse. Yes, much like my letter man coat from high school, I was forced to part with my collection of tube socks. While I miss my grandmothers daily, it’s a blessing they are departed because I’d never be able to explain why they could no longer get me tube socks for Christmas.

Apparently the truth is size does matter. The good news is, the smaller the better. You know what they say about men with big feet…small socks. Yes, socks so small, they are called ‘No Shows’ are the must haves for men to be fashionably acceptable, especially when wearing shorts. Is that a surprise to anyone but me?

In my defense, I’m not totally clueless in the field of socks. I know not to wear any size of black sock while wearing shorts. Also, it’s suggested that the tube socks not be pulled up all the way to the knee. Take my word for it, trust me, you will be laughed at. Mid-calf is also widely believed to be too high, as is even mid-ankle.

My legs aren’t very long, I’ve never been told, ‘You must be a basketball player,’ and I’ve also been advised against wearing short shorts. (That was an awkward conversation) A person need not be a fashion designer to know that if your shorts reaches your knees, then your socks are kept below knee-level. I typically kept my socks rolled down to an inch or two above the ankle, low enough that I wouldn’t look silly…Wrong! I even made sure the top stripe matched my shirt. I never want my colors to clash!

The first really warm day of the year, I broke out my shorts and rolled down my socks…red shirt, green striped socks (in the spirit of Christmas) and the wife was instantly ready to go shopping for socks. Before she’d go out to dinner with me that night, there was a quick trip to the store. I then received my first pair of ‘no show’ socks, with the warning to still not wear them with sandals or boat/deck/loafer shoes. My reaction to wearing them is similar to my feelings on G-Strings, why even bother? It’s all hanging out to see anyway.

It has been an adjustment, I feel so exposed, and my ankles have been freezing. The ankles must be the thermostat for the entire body. I suppose it’s just part of what it takes to be in style, or at least from below the ankle.

 

 

19 Kids and Kill Me

The mere thought of ever having more children than can fit in a mini-van is beyond my realm of reason, so I consider the Duggars to be certifiably insane. From the reality series ’19 Kids and Counting’ rather than ’19 Kids and Kill Me’ the Duggars have more offspring than I have friends. (At least all my friends can fit in a mini-van, or a Volkswagen) However, it’s not their fertility that I find most unique about the family, but their strict rules on courting. (Courting is dating with the intent to marry…I had to Google what the difference between dating and courting is)

Until recently I had never watched an episode of ’19 Kids and Counting,’ which airs on TLC (there’s no little people in the Duggar family…yet), but been keeping up with Jill and Jessa’s relationships and eventual weddings. I assume there really are 19 kids, I’ve only seen about half of them as the shows focus has been on the sisters who got married within the same year.

The Duggars are a wholesome, religious family with strong morals, (Did you ever know anyone named Jim Bob ‘Dad’ whose mean?) who clearly don’t believe in birth control. Also Michelle ‘Mom’ must never have headaches at night. I respect their code of ethics, but think the family could loosen up in some area. Under the direction of their parents, both Jill and Jessa were kissed for the first time at their wedding. Throughout their courtships they never kissed, not even a quick peck goodnight…on the cheek even. Makes you wonder what they did on their dates, must have actually talked the whole time and paid attention to whatever movie they watched together….BORING! I understand waiting until marriage to consummate the relationship, but to not even kiss seems a little extreme.

They not only hadn’t kissed, but also never had a full front to front hug or held hands. The thought of marrying someone who I’ve had less physical contact with than I’ve had with relatives seems foreign to me. I don’t think I could do it. When with the one you love it’s hard enough to wait until it’s time to say goodnight (or until the third date) to have that first kiss, to wait until marriage seems unnecessarily cruel. Plus, what if they are a terrible kisser or has chronic bad breath?

If the no kissing wasn’t bad enough (Yes, I’ll have an onion on my hamburger), there also had to be a chaperone on each of their dates. Someone had to make sure nothing inappropriate happened. Imagine being 22 and needing to have a parent in the backseat while at the drive-in. Never being able to have a private personal conversation with your soulmate. How can you prepare for marriage when you are never alone together? The Duggars also intercepted every text message sent between the couples. Prisoners have more freedom.

I do understand wanting to protect from the dangers of physical relations before marriage, but I think the Duggars take it to the extreme. There can be a rush to the altar, if for no other reason, than to be able to kiss. Marriage is a serious commitment, which couples need to be ready for, the real challenges start after that first kiss is had.

 

 

 

 

The Genius of Trivia Crack

At times I think about going for my Master’s degree and then my Doctorate, perhaps in one of the Sciences, as I feel very intelligent after winning at Trivia Crack. The thoughts however are short lived as then I get beat by a fifteen year old. As I learned in high school, multiple choice questions mixed with just a little luck, can raise my normal level of intelligence. It is addicting to feel smart, I wonder what it would be like to feel that way all of the time? Maybe if I keep playing Trivia Crack I’ll eventually find out.

The ‘It’ game on Facebook seems to go in cycles, at first it was Mafia Wars, and then everyone turned into farmers with Farmtown or Farmville. Society soon learned that farming was hard work, requiring lots of time and effort so then Candy Crush came along. Now it’s Trivia Crack, I wonder how long it will be popular as Americans don’t always like to think, especially while on Facebook. (Why else would people sign their name to their comments, it’s not like writing a letter)

I think a major attraction to Trivia Crack is that feeling of accomplishment when a question is answered correctly, like when watching Jeopardy. I believe that some easy questions are thrown in once and awhile to keep the simpletons interested. I even manage to get some Geography questions right and I don’t even know north from south. My best categories are Entertainment, Sports and Arts as the more academic subjects; History, Geography and Science are challenging. If I knew the material would be useful in an online game I would have paid more attention during those classes in school. Guess the teachers weren’t lying when they said its information we would use in life. In addition to the softball questions, I’m also convinced that a series of real brain busters are also occasionally thrown in to keep everyone level headed. Also, I’m not sure about the validity of the spinning wheel, there are some rounds where it consistently lands on the Crown and others in which its magnetized to just my three worst subjects.

It’s the little things in life that bring such great pleasure, such as beating your friend who is an electrical engineer at Trivia Crack. It must stink to be that smart, but not know what two Kardashian sisters take over the Hamptons. Beware though as the game also comes with the risk of much heartache as there’s not much worse than losing a game without getting a single crown, trophy, icon, character or whatever they are called. Zero out of six. At least let me earn the popcorn bucket trophy as a consolation prize.  I begin to feel guilty when it appears that I could possibly be giving someone the shutout treatment. I don’t want to send them into a deep depression. It’s an unwritten rule to allow your opponent to get some trophies, even if it means missing questions intentionally, or at least when you are playing me.

Without an actual book of conduct for Trivia Crack, there are several areas I question, such as how many consecutive times should you beat an opponent before trying your hardest to let them win one? Seriously, a few lucky guesses and anyone can taste victory. I have no idea what DNA stands for, but by guessing C every time, my chances of having the right answer rises substantially. I’ve won an entire game by using that theory, along with B being the answer to every third question. In a world where friendships can be lost over the content of posts, repeatedly defeating someone who is highly educated is grounds for war.

Also, what’s the protocol on asking someone to play again? The winner gets the first opportunity, so if they don’t ask, do you just move on? Maybe they didn’t feel challenged enough or felt too threatened. I don’t like asking, because I know how irritated people are by receiving game requests.

If I retained everything I’ve learned from Trivia Crack, I would be a genius, or at least above normal intelligence, but everything is forgotten by the next question. It’s really unfortunate, because some questions get repeated. The only substantial knowledge I’ve gained that will forever stick with me from playing Trivia Crack is not to drool over Kate Upton in the Game of War ads when my wife is in the room. Whoever designed those ads is the real genius.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A dream made true: Cheering for the Buckeyes

(Article originally appeared in the Tippecanoe Gazette)

It was a dream season for The Ohio State University, who were crowned the National Champions of college football. The championship was the pinnacle of a lifelong dream of Taylor Rudy, whose been living a fairytale as a cheerleader for the Buckeyes. From her spot on the sidelines, Rudy’s spirit helped propel the football team to have one of history’s most magical years.

Rudy, a 2011 graduate of Tippecanoe High School, is fulfilling a goal she set for herself as a child. In the eighth grade, her teacher passed around cards to the class with some general questions on them, including, ‘what is your life dream?’ Rudy’s answer was to be an Ohio State cheerleader. “My teacher laminated those cards, and I kept it growing up. I brought that card to tryouts with me, and I still have it sitting on my desk at school. It’s an incredible feeling to know you are truly living out your childhood and lifelong dream,” she said.

The entire season was filled with obstacles for the team, including an injury at the start of the season to the quarterback, Braxton Miller. To ever reach the championship game seemed nearly impossible. “I’m a very optimistic person, and I had faith in the Buckeyes that we would still have a great season, but the National Championship game is something any team would pray for. Let alone a team that overcame as many adversities as this team did,” said Rudy.

The Sugar Bowl, against Alabama is regarded as one of the most nerve wracking games that Rudy has ever cheered for. When the final buzzer hit zero, the seemingly impossible feat had been made true. The Ohio State Buckeyes would forever be the first to compete in a National Championship game after being victorious in the playoffs.

At the championship game, held in Arlington, Texas; Rudy was enamored by the raucous crowd in such an enormous arena.  Her dream was at the absolute ultimate level of reality. “I kept stopping and looking around, it’s such a crazy feeling when you realize you are currently experiencing one of the most memorable days of your life,” said Rudy. “I’m so honored to be a part of this season and these memories.”

A fourth year Psychology major, with a minor in Business and Criminology; Rudy and all the other cheerleaders must tryout each year. A spot is never guaranteed. Tryouts are a weekend long and held in the spring. While a senior at Tipp, Taylor attended her first tryout, which was very intimidating. She however felt comforted by the other competitors who showed support, despite going for the same limited spot.

While Rudy values all the physical aspects of being a cheerleader, it’s the memories that she cherishes most. Engrained within her forever are the times spent standing in the end zone while the drum major leads Script Ohio, witnessing every touchdown and basket from the front row, traveling to countless places, and standing in front of the student section during the Alma Mater. In addition to the sports related activities, the cheerleaders are also considered as ambassadors of the university. They attend hundreds of events a year with alumni, administration and fans. “I’ve had the opportunity to spend time with countless less fortunate or sick children, seeing the way their faces light up when you hand them your pom poms or Brutus walks into the room is priceless,” she said.

Of course, nothing compares to game day at The Shoe, where Rudy cheers in front of 108,000 fans. She feeds off the energy from one of the country’s greatest crowds. However, it’s the personal encounters that gives her much joy. “One of my favorite things is meeting little girls in cheerleading uniforms. The way they look at you is indescribable, it’s an honor to know that just by bending down and talking to them you can make their day,” said Rudy.

With all the joys of being a cheerleader also comes some hardships. Due to the time commitment, including early morning practices, Rudy misses spending time with friends and stays up late to finish homework, which means getting further behind on sleep. She wouldn’t have it any other way though. “The hardest part about being a cheerleader is the moment you realize it doesn’t last forever. It really makes you want to take advantage of every second,” she said.

When all the odds were against them during the season, nobody ever expected the Buckeyes would end up National Champions. As an eighth grader, not everyone believed that Rudy would someday fulfill her dream of being an Ohio State cheerleader. The team or she ever gave up. “All your dreams can come true if you have the courage to pursue them. Trying out for Ohio State cheerleading was one of the most intimidating moments of my life, but I’m so glad I did it. Stepping out of your own comfort zone is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself. I can’t imagine how different my life would be if I hadn’t stepped out of mine,” said Rudy.